Why Revisiting Your Definitions Will Set You Free

Why Revisiting Your Definitions Will Set You Free

Ever since we came into being, our parents, relatives, and teachers have modeled ideas of success, love, fun, and belonging for us. Whether they suggested what career you had to take, or designed certain value sets in you, the fact is this - we’ve been influenced. As a therapist, I’ve listened to all kinds of stories on career, romance, friendships, family, and so forth. And while we have been taught to the best of their ability, here are a few reasons why it’s time for you to revisit your definitions on love, relationships, success, and living your life:

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5 Big Lies We Tend to Tell Ourselves

5 Big Lies We Tend to Tell Ourselves

It is part of our human nature to create defenses / excuses that can save us from feelings of overwhelm. These mechanisms or safeguarding tendencies are what personality theorists describe as behaviors that help protect the ego from the demands of the superego, id, and the demands of reality around us. Sometimes, it is deeply programmed into us, at other times, our subconscious tries to find the most creative way for us to get out of situations that we no longer wish to put up with. In the years that I have had to do therapy and healing, it has become evident to me that there are 5 basic lies that we all tend to tell ourselves to help us in our coping.  And whether we realize it or not, these 5 basic lies are deeply embedded into us as a culture that we don't realize how they tend to limit us in our social, emotional, mental, and professional well-being. They are: 

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A Step-by-Step Guide to Exploring Your Limiting Beliefs

Have you ever seen a dog on a short leash? They can hardly take two steps, sit, or lay down. They're so uncomfortable that they start to get incredibly cranky. While the leash might have served its purpose for them as pups, grown dogs on short leashes could affect them physically, mentally, and emotionally - from sheer frustration that they cannot seem to do anything. When we outgrow our belief systems but still hold them so close to our hearts, they too, can be paralyzing - keeping us on a short leash and denying us the possibility of experiencing life to the fullest. 

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Escaping Our Limiting Beliefs

They say that the trick to manifesting the life that you want is to be perfectly clear about your vision. Basically, you set your intention, you line up your resources, and you imagine the very thing that you wish to acquire. Simple right? Not really. Wherein mood and vision boards help us get started, what I’m learning is that we can dream all we like, but if we have limiting beliefs, then we will never get what we want. 

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